I’ve had a lot on my mind lately, and when I am “feeling all the feels” I naturally wish to send these feels into the universe. And that means the rare Being Melificent post.
On the cusp of turning 32, I am so comfortable with myself. I remember how terrified I was to turn 30 – how definitive it felt. Like I had to change in some way; become more of an adult. And that’s what I want to share today. You don’t have to change for anyone, anything…ever. Just because you are no longer a teenager does not mean that you can’t have an unattainable crush. Just because you are married, does not mean you can’t have a wild and crazy night with your single girlfriends. Just because you are a mom, does not mean that you can’t have a day where you just think about yourself. Do you catch my drift?
Once, I read someone state that now that they were married, they realized that they were no longer hanging out with their single friends. Why? To me, that says that you have lost yourself as a person. Just because you decide to start a life with someone else does not mean that you, as an individual, disappears. Never lose that. Ever. Your life should not be defined by these labels (married, gay, single, mother, divorced, etc). You are not any of these labels, you are a PERSON. Much less, do not let your life be defined by your age.
Along the same vein, someone once started a sentence with, “Now that I’m in my 30’s, I can’t…” Can’t do what exactly? Last I checked, age was just a number. What counts is how you feel. I see so many people that are younger than me that feel they can’t enjoy life to the fullest because of a number. Are you kidding me? Do you mean to tell me that just because I am turning 32, I cannot wear a short skirt, go out dancing and act silly? Buy a stuffed animal? Wear blue nail polish? Go to NYC just to see Zachary Quinto perform on Broadway (ahem)? How does any of that make sense? Before you know it, this crazy life will be ending, and do you want to look back and wonder why? Why you didn’t laugh more, stay out a little longer, make those special memories while you could?
Readers, stalkers, friends: do not take yourself so seriously. Enjoy this life because you only have one. I don’t know about you, but I plan on living it and not forgetting who I am (& who I always have been).